Category Archives: acceptance

On assigning friendship…

You mission… should you choose to accept it… will be to be a friend to this other child in your class… No – really… This will be really great! I will give you extrinsic rewards and reinforcements for being a … Continue reading

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Not on my wall… Boundaries and Entitlement

Lately I have seen some parents suggesting that their “Lighting it up Blue” is different – because they have their own kind of family meaning or tradition for it and do not associate it at all with Autism Speaks. When … Continue reading

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Pathologizing Kitty…

I’ve been considering that we don’t impose the dog paradigm of communication, where tail wagging means ‘I am happy or excited’ and ‘please give me more…’ on the cats we know and love… It is interesting that we realize the … Continue reading

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Autism and Processing Grief: Feelings Change

This post is a follow-up to https://30daysofautism.wordpress.com/2011/12/29/ladybugs-autism-empathy-and-processing-grief/  and also a very late response to a comment left there. It was started long ago… but due to some things we are dealing with as a family now… it has become relevant to … Continue reading

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“No More”: ASAN Vancouver Disability Day of Mourning

The following is a guest post, composed of the speech written by Norman Kunc and Emma Van der Klift, and spoken by Norman Kunc,  for the ASAN 2015 Disability Day of Mourning. The vigil was held in the Woodlands Memorial … Continue reading

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And Then You Cry ‘Victim’

When Autistic adults are ignored or gaslighted or tone policed and told they “shouldn’t be so angry” or they are “not like my child,” then the opportunity to learn from the real autism experts is missed. It may not be … Continue reading

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Painting the Dog and Love as Self-care

My brain is full of stuff that I am trying to work through – and I trust in the process – really I do… but I have to remind myself of this – or I can get in the way. … Continue reading

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Therapy Defined: Self-Regulation

Definition of self-regulation intervention or therapy: H is given the downtime he needs to delve into his interests and to regroup and relax when he needs it… (And you wouldn’t call this therapy if the kid were non Autistic, you’d … Continue reading

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Livetweeting #CitizenAutistic

My wonderful friend Lei Wiley-Mydske and I are thrilled to announce another venture into the world of livetweeting film! We have done a couple of livetweets together over the last few months and they have gone rather well. Our first … Continue reading

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Cara on TASH: A quick overview

So many things have happened during the last week. H and I have had amazing adventures and the opportunity to connect with so many wonderful people in Disabilites and Neurodivergent and Autistic communities. The lovely and effervescent Cara Liebowitz is one … Continue reading

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